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"Going Dutch” isn’t very common in eastern cultures and is sometimes viewed as offensive.

Since when has splitting the bill been considered a stingy act?



"We'll go Dutch" is a phrase used in many parts of the world to signify the splitting of a bill at a restaurant or cafe. In my experience, though, it is a concept alien to most of my peers in Dubai.

A typical scene at the end of a meal out with my friends, be it at Cheesecake Factory, Chili's or any shisha cafe, goes something like this: our stomachs are thoroughly satisfied, filled with burgers or sickly-sweet sundaes, the enthusiasm that we started with while playing our card games has steadily subsided and yawns are trending.

It is time to go home and get some sleep, so we call for the bill, and when the waiter brings it to the table, it is snatched up by an eager male friend who smoothly slips his card into the black leather folder and proceeds to give it back to the waiter.

This is followed by exaggerated protests – some genuine, others forced – from the rest of the party.

Friends wave around their wallets in a show of willingness to contribute to the bill – which could be anywhere from Dh300 to Dh1,000, depending on where we are eating. On a rare occasion, another friend might snatch the bill and replace the card inside with his own, winning the battle of the male egos.

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It seems, at least within my social circle, that a man feels he is measured by his willingness to pay the bill.

Having been raised in the United States, my friends there would always split the bill, or "go Dutch", often down to the last cent. I always argue with these bill hijackers, stressing that we should all pay equally, or pay for what we ordered.

While the prospect of a free meal might sound nice, it quickly becomes detestable when you feel like a pawn in someone's attempt to elevate their own reputation.

If a friend pays the entire bill, others usually feel obliged to make a bid for the bill at the next meal, to pay back the first friend and even things up, which in turn prompts an endless cycle of individuals – mostly guys – paying entire bills. And while they may view it as fair, it doesn't add up.

It could put someone who is financially unstable, for instance, in a very tight spot when their turn to take the big fall comes around. And it often leaves female friends – especially those who are single – enjoying free food, over and over again. To me, it's bizarre.

After some research, I learnt that "going Dutch" isn't very common in eastern cultures – it's sometimes viewed as offensive.

In South Asian traditions, it's considered rude to ask people to pay for themselves, and the responsibility of payment falls on an elder or male member of a group. And apparently in Iraq, the expression "going Dutch" translates to "maslawiya", which is a dig at the perceived stingy reputation of people from Mosul.

Surely expressing a desire to pay for what you ate isn't stingy – it's the complete opposite.

So, friends, next time the bill comes around at the end of a meal, and the receipt lists my burger at Dh59, take my money graciously, please, and don't look at it as if it is the offerings of a peasant or tell me that you don't like to carry cash.

Law 41.9.4 of men’s T20I playing conditions

The fielding side shall be ready to start each over within 60 seconds of the previous over being completed.
An electronic clock will be displayed at the ground that counts down seconds from 60 to zero.
The clock is not required or, if already started, can be cancelled if:
• A new batter comes to the wicket between overs.
• An official drinks interval has been called.
• The umpires have approved the on field treatment of an injury to a batter or fielder.
• The time lost is for any circumstances beyond the control of the fielding side.
• The third umpire starts the clock either when the ball has become dead at the end of the previous over, or a review has been completed.
• The team gets two warnings if they are not ready to start overs after the clock reaches zero.
• On the third and any subsequent occasion in an innings, the bowler’s end umpire awards five runs.

UAE gold medallists:

Omar Al Suweidi (46kg), Khaled Al Shehhi (50kg), Khalifa Humaid Al Kaabi (60kg), Omar Al Fadhli (62kg), Mohammed Ali Al Suweidi (66kg), Omar Ahmed Al Hosani (73), all in the U18’s, and Khalid Eskandar Al Blooshi (56kg) in the U21s.

If you go

The flights
There are various ways of getting to the southern Serengeti in Tanzania from the UAE. The exact route and airstrip depends on your overall trip itinerary and which camp you’re staying at. 
Flydubai flies direct from Dubai to Kilimanjaro International Airport from Dh1,350 return, including taxes; this can be followed by a short flight from Kilimanjaro to the Serengeti with Coastal Aviation from about US$700 (Dh2,500) return, including taxes. Kenya Airways, Emirates and Etihad offer flights via Nairobi or Dar es Salaam.   

Mercer, the investment consulting arm of US services company Marsh & McLennan, expects its wealth division to at least double its assets under management (AUM) in the Middle East as wealth in the region continues to grow despite economic headwinds, a company official said.

Mercer Wealth, which globally has $160 billion in AUM, plans to boost its AUM in the region to $2-$3bn in the next 2-3 years from the present $1bn, said Yasir AbuShaban, a Dubai-based principal with Mercer Wealth.

Within the next two to three years, we are looking at reaching $2 to $3 billion as a conservative estimate and we do see an opportunity to do so,” said Mr AbuShaban.

Mercer does not directly make investments, but allocates clients’ money they have discretion to, to professional asset managers. They also provide advice to clients.

“We have buying power. We can negotiate on their (client’s) behalf with asset managers to provide them lower fees than they otherwise would have to get on their own,” he added.

Mercer Wealth’s clients include sovereign wealth funds, family offices, and insurance companies among others.

From its office in Dubai, Mercer also looks after Africa, India and Turkey, where they also see opportunity for growth.

Wealth creation in Middle East and Africa (MEA) grew 8.5 per cent to $8.1 trillion last year from $7.5tn in 2015, higher than last year’s global average of 6 per cent and the second-highest growth in a region after Asia-Pacific which grew 9.9 per cent, according to consultancy Boston Consulting Group (BCG). In the region, where wealth grew just 1.9 per cent in 2015 compared with 2014, a pickup in oil prices has helped in wealth generation.

BCG is forecasting MEA wealth will rise to $12tn by 2021, growing at an annual average of 8 per cent.

Drivers of wealth generation in the region will be split evenly between new wealth creation and growth of performance of existing assets, according to BCG.

Another general trend in the region is clients’ looking for a comprehensive approach to investing, according to Mr AbuShaban.

“Institutional investors or some of the families are seeing a slowdown in the available capital they have to invest and in that sense they are looking at optimizing the way they manage their portfolios and making sure they are not investing haphazardly and different parts of their investment are working together,” said Mr AbuShaban.

Some clients also have a higher appetite for risk, given the low interest-rate environment that does not provide enough yield for some institutional investors. These clients are keen to invest in illiquid assets, such as private equity and infrastructure.

“What we have seen is a desire for higher returns in what has been a low-return environment specifically in various fixed income or bonds,” he said.

“In this environment, we have seen a de facto increase in the risk that clients are taking in things like illiquid investments, private equity investments, infrastructure and private debt, those kind of investments were higher illiquidity results in incrementally higher returns.”

The Abu Dhabi Investment Authority, one of the largest sovereign wealth funds, said in its 2016 report that has gradually increased its exposure in direct private equity and private credit transactions, mainly in Asian markets and especially in China and India. The authority’s private equity department focused on structured equities owing to “their defensive characteristics.”

ESSENTIALS

The flights

Emirates flies direct from Dubai to Rio de Janeiro from Dh7,000 return including taxes. Avianca fliles from Rio to Cusco via Lima from $399 (Dhxx) return including taxes.

The trip

From US$1,830 per deluxe cabin, twin share, for the one-night Spirit of the Water itinerary and US$4,630 per deluxe cabin for the Peruvian Highlands itinerary, inclusive of meals, and beverages. Surcharges apply for some excursions.

COMPANY PROFILE

Name: SmartCrowd
Started: 2018
Founder: Siddiq Farid and Musfique Ahmed
Based: Dubai
Sector: FinTech / PropTech
Initial investment: $650,000
Current number of staff: 35
Investment stage: Series A
Investors: Various institutional investors and notable angel investors (500 MENA, Shurooq, Mada, Seedstar, Tricap)

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Dobromir Radichkov, chief data officer at dubizzle and Bayut, offers a few tips for UAE residents looking to earn some cash from pre-loved items.

  1. Sellers should focus on providing high-quality used goods at attractive prices to buyers.
  2. It’s important to use clear and appealing photos, with catchy titles and detailed descriptions to capture the attention of prospective buyers.
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