What is sologamy? Why an Indian woman who married herself is dividing social media


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India is known for its extravagant weddings, but one such celebration this week has grabbed headlines around the world and sparked heated debates on social media.

Kshama Bindu, a blogger from Vadodara city in Gujarat, tied the knot on Wednesday in a Hindu ceremony. Dressed in a traditional bridal red sari, she performed the seven pheras — the sacred walk around the holy fire — as her smiling friends looked on. But missing from all the happy photos and videos was the groom.

"My life is not going to change after this marriage, and that is why I've always wanted to become a bride and not a wife," Bindu, 24, says in a video she shared on Instagram. "And I'm going to live my dream today."

Kshama Bindu performs rituals during her solo wedding ceremony at her home in Vadodara. AP
Kshama Bindu performs rituals during her solo wedding ceremony at her home in Vadodara. AP

In May, Bindu made headlines when she announced she was going to wed herself, in what is believed to be India's first instance of sologamy.

“I just want to be a bride like most women, get ready, wear the best wedding outfit and be photographed. I want to give all the love in my heart to myself. I might fall in love with myself even more,” she told The National ahead of her big day.

The wedding was set for June 11, but had to be quickly moved to an earlier date after news of the impending wedding spread and sparked a backlash.

A priest who was booked for the wedding refused to perform the rituals and the temple where the ceremony was set to take place cancelled the event after opposition from a politician.

"I'm against the choice of venue, she'll not be allowed to marry herself in any temple. Such marriages are against Hinduism. This will reduce the population of Hindus. If anything goes against religion, then no law will prevail," Sunita Shukla, a local leader of the right-wing Bharatiya Janata Party told Indian news agency ANI.

Undeterred, Bindu said she decided to move the wedding day and venue to her home.

  • Kshama Bindu during her solo wedding ceremony at her home in Vadodara, in Gujarat state, India. Bindu’s wedding is being described by Indian media as the country’s first case of 'sologamy', a rare symbolic wedding ceremony where people marry themselves. AP
    Kshama Bindu during her solo wedding ceremony at her home in Vadodara, in Gujarat state, India. Bindu’s wedding is being described by Indian media as the country’s first case of 'sologamy', a rare symbolic wedding ceremony where people marry themselves. AP
  • Kshama Bindu, center, performs rituals during her solo wedding ceremony at her home n Vadodara, in India's Gujarat state, Wednesday, June 8, 2022. Bindu’s solo wedding in India’s Gujarat state on Wednesday has been dubbed by Indian media as the country’s first case of “Sologamy,” a rare symbolic wedding ceremony where people marry themselves. The 24-year-old blogger’s self-marriage won’t be legally binding because Indian law does not recognise it, but Bindu said the wedding symbolised “unconditional love for herself. ” (AP Photo)
    Kshama Bindu, center, performs rituals during her solo wedding ceremony at her home n Vadodara, in India's Gujarat state, Wednesday, June 8, 2022. Bindu’s solo wedding in India’s Gujarat state on Wednesday has been dubbed by Indian media as the country’s first case of “Sologamy,” a rare symbolic wedding ceremony where people marry themselves. The 24-year-old blogger’s self-marriage won’t be legally binding because Indian law does not recognise it, but Bindu said the wedding symbolised “unconditional love for herself. ” (AP Photo)
  • When announcing her wedding plans, Bindu said she had always 'wanted to be a bride but not a wife'. Photo: Kshama Bindu
    When announcing her wedding plans, Bindu said she had always 'wanted to be a bride but not a wife'. Photo: Kshama Bindu
  • Bindu shopping for her wedding day. Photo: Kshama Bindu
    Bindu shopping for her wedding day. Photo: Kshama Bindu
  • Bindu's marriage is not legally recognised in India.
    Bindu's marriage is not legally recognised in India.
  • Bindu, 24, describes herself as a digital creator. She said her wedding symbolised 'unconditional love for herself'. Photo: Kshama Bindu
    Bindu, 24, describes herself as a digital creator. She said her wedding symbolised 'unconditional love for herself'. Photo: Kshama Bindu
  • A priest booked for the wedding refused to perform the rituals and the temple where the ceremony was scheduled cancelled the event after opposition from a politician.
    A priest booked for the wedding refused to perform the rituals and the temple where the ceremony was scheduled cancelled the event after opposition from a politician.
  • 'I just want to be a bride, like most women, get ready, wear the best wedding outfit and be photographed, but I don’t want to be a wife,' Bindu told 'The National'. Photo: Kshama Bindu
    'I just want to be a bride, like most women, get ready, wear the best wedding outfit and be photographed, but I don’t want to be a wife,' Bindu told 'The National'. Photo: Kshama Bindu
  • The wedding was planned for June 11, but had to be quickly moved to an earlier date after news of the event spread and sparked a backlash.
    The wedding was planned for June 11, but had to be quickly moved to an earlier date after news of the event spread and sparked a backlash.
  • Marrying herself is the ultimate expression of 'self-love', the bride said. Photo: Kshama Bindu
    Marrying herself is the ultimate expression of 'self-love', the bride said. Photo: Kshama Bindu

"I received no threats but wanted the wedding to be peaceful, so I preponed it. It was like any other Hindu wedding. I applied vermillion and put on a mangalsutra and garland. I also took the pheras," she told ANI.

In the video she shared, she says her act of self-love was intended to break stereotypes and inspire others.

"When I talk about self-life, you are not compromising your happiness for anyone. And you're going to choose yourself over anything, whatever situations come," she says.

What is sologamy?

Kshama Bindu shopping for her wedding day. Photo: Kshama Bindu
Kshama Bindu shopping for her wedding day. Photo: Kshama Bindu

Sologamy is a wedding ceremony where people marry themselves. While the term has gained popularity in recent years, especially in the West, the practice itself is not new.

As far back as 2000, there have been stories of women marrying themselves in symbolic ceremonies in ultimate acts of self-love.

Brides.com describes the practice as "a cathartic declaration of self-compassion and a promise to give to yourself what you often seek from other people."

In 2003, an episode of Sex and the City titled A Woman's Right to Shoes showed lead character Carrie Bradshaw, played by Sarah Jessica Parker, organise a self-marriage after being mocked by her married friend.

In 2010, the hit show Glee also featured the self-wedding of the character Sue Sylvester, played by Jane Lynch.

One year after her divorce from NBA player Marco Jaric was finalised, Brazilian supermodel Adriana Lima posted a photo of herself still sporting a wedding ring in 2017.

"What's up with the ring? It's symbolic. I am committed to myself and my own happiness. I am married with me. Ladies, love yourself," she said.

While some have called Bindu's ceremony a "publicity stunt" and a move to gain more followers on social media, she told The National that her main intention was to promote sologamy and “self-acceptance”.

“I never thought that it would be a big deal but I want people to understand that one can be single and be happy," she said. "With my marriage, I want them to look at the positive sides of self-love and accept the concept of marrying [the] self.”

A complete guide to wedding guest dress codes, from white-tie to smart-casual - in pictures

  • Casual: Chiffon mini dress, Dh3,129, Zimmerman at MatchesFashion.com. Photo: Matchesfashion.com
    Casual: Chiffon mini dress, Dh3,129, Zimmerman at MatchesFashion.com. Photo: Matchesfashion.com
  • Beach: Alisa dress, Dh3,286, Jonathan Simkhai, at Shopbop.com. Photo: shopbop.com
    Beach: Alisa dress, Dh3,286, Jonathan Simkhai, at Shopbop.com. Photo: shopbop.com
  • Cocktail: Ruffled taffata dress, Dh3,497, Kika Vergas, at Shopbop.com. Photo: shopbop.com
    Cocktail: Ruffled taffata dress, Dh3,497, Kika Vergas, at Shopbop.com. Photo: shopbop.com
  • Midnight blue gown, rental from Dh1,710, Reem Acra, at Designer-24.com. Photo: Designer-24.com.
    Midnight blue gown, rental from Dh1,710, Reem Acra, at Designer-24.com. Photo: Designer-24.com.
  • White tie: Nora gown, Dh3,303, Eposa. Photo: Eposa
    White tie: Nora gown, Dh3,303, Eposa. Photo: Eposa
  • Black-tie optional: Cream tulle gown, rental fee from Dh320, Catherine Deane at Designer-24.com. Photo: Designer-24.com
    Black-tie optional: Cream tulle gown, rental fee from Dh320, Catherine Deane at Designer-24.com. Photo: Designer-24.com
  • Casual: Lace off-shoulder dress, Dh1,817, Bambah. Photo: Bambah
    Casual: Lace off-shoulder dress, Dh1,817, Bambah. Photo: Bambah
  • Casual or beach wedding: Printed dress, Dh1,760, Maje, at Bloomingdales. Photo: Bloomingdales
    Casual or beach wedding: Printed dress, Dh1,760, Maje, at Bloomingdales. Photo: Bloomingdales
  • White tie: Off-shoulder gown in antique gold, Dh8,075, by Talbot Runhof, at Ounass. Photo: Ounass.com
    White tie: Off-shoulder gown in antique gold, Dh8,075, by Talbot Runhof, at Ounass. Photo: Ounass.com
  • Casual or beach wedding: Sicilia ruffle dress, Dh1,461, by Bronx and Banco, at Revolve.com. Photo: Revolve.com‬
    Casual or beach wedding: Sicilia ruffle dress, Dh1,461, by Bronx and Banco, at Revolve.com. Photo: Revolve.com‬
  • Semi-formal or smart casual: Sweetheart cocktail dress, Dh6,579, Carolina Herrera, at Farfetch.com. Photo: Farfetch.com
    Semi-formal or smart casual: Sweetheart cocktail dress, Dh6,579, Carolina Herrera, at Farfetch.com. Photo: Farfetch.com
  • Cocktail: Bluestar Midi Dress, Dh6,004, Bambah. Photo: Bambah
    Cocktail: Bluestar Midi Dress, Dh6,004, Bambah. Photo: Bambah
  • Semi-formal or smart casual: Delilah backless dress, Dh3,742, by Bernadette, at Net-A-Porter.com. Photo: Net-A-Porter.com
    Semi-formal or smart casual: Delilah backless dress, Dh3,742, by Bernadette, at Net-A-Porter.com. Photo: Net-A-Porter.com
  • Black tie: Kenzi one-shoulder gown Dh11,100, by Rachel Gilbert at Bloomingdales. Photo: Bloomingdales
    Black tie: Kenzi one-shoulder gown Dh11,100, by Rachel Gilbert at Bloomingdales. Photo: Bloomingdales
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Ten tax points to be aware of in 2026

1. Domestic VAT refund amendments: request your refund within five years

If a business does not apply for the refund on time, they lose their credit.

2. E-invoicing in the UAE

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3. More tax audits

Tax authorities are increasingly using data already available across multiple filings to identify audit risks. 

4. More beneficial VAT and excise tax penalty regime

Tax disputes are expected to become more frequent and more structured, with clearer administrative objection and appeal processes. The UAE has adopted a new penalty regime for VAT and excise disputes, which now mirrors the penalty regime for corporate tax.

5. Greater emphasis on statutory audit

There is a greater need for the accuracy of financial statements. The International Financial Reporting Standards standards need to be strictly adhered to and, as a result, the quality of the audits will need to increase.

6. Further transfer pricing enforcement

Transfer pricing enforcement, which refers to the practice of establishing prices for internal transactions between related entities, is expected to broaden in scope. The UAE will shortly open the possibility to negotiate advance pricing agreements, or essentially rulings for transfer pricing purposes. 

7. Limited time periods for audits

Recent amendments also introduce a default five-year limitation period for tax audits and assessments, subject to specific statutory exceptions. While the standard audit and assessment period is five years, this may be extended to up to 15 years in cases involving fraud or tax evasion. 

8. Pillar 2 implementation 

Many multinational groups will begin to feel the practical effect of the Domestic Minimum Top-Up Tax (DMTT), the UAE's implementation of the OECD’s global minimum tax under Pillar 2. While the rules apply for financial years starting on or after January 1, 2025, it is 2026 that marks the transition to an operational phase.

9. Reduced compliance obligations for imported goods and services

Businesses that apply the reverse-charge mechanism for VAT purposes in the UAE may benefit from reduced compliance obligations. 

10. Substance and CbC reporting focus

Tax authorities are expected to continue strengthening the enforcement of economic substance and Country-by-Country (CbC) reporting frameworks. In the UAE, these regimes are increasingly being used as risk-assessment tools, providing tax authorities with a comprehensive view of multinational groups’ global footprints and enabling them to assess whether profits are aligned with real economic activity. 

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Expo details

Expo 2020 Dubai will be the first World Expo to be held in the Middle East, Africa and South Asia

The world fair will run for six months from October 20, 2020 to April 10, 2021.

It is expected to attract 25 million visits

Some 70 per cent visitors are projected to come from outside the UAE, the largest proportion of international visitors in the 167-year history of World Expos.

More than 30,000 volunteers are required for Expo 2020

The site covers a total of 4.38 sqkm, including a 2 sqkm gated area

It is located adjacent to Al Maktoum International Airport in Dubai South

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Where to donate in the UAE

The Emirates Charity Portal

You can donate to several registered charities through a “donation catalogue”. The use of the donation is quite specific, such as buying a fan for a poor family in Niger for Dh130.

The General Authority of Islamic Affairs & Endowments

The site has an e-donation service accepting debit card, credit card or e-Dirham, an electronic payment tool developed by the Ministry of Finance and First Abu Dhabi Bank.

Al Noor Special Needs Centre

You can donate online or order Smiles n’ Stuff products handcrafted by Al Noor students. The centre publishes a wish list of extras needed, starting at Dh500.

Beit Al Khair Society

Beit Al Khair Society has the motto “From – and to – the UAE,” with donations going towards the neediest in the country. Its website has a list of physical donation sites, but people can also contribute money by SMS, bank transfer and through the hotline 800-22554.

Dar Al Ber Society

Dar Al Ber Society, which has charity projects in 39 countries, accept cash payments, money transfers or SMS donations. Its donation hotline is 800-79.

Dubai Cares

Dubai Cares provides several options for individuals and companies to donate, including online, through banks, at retail outlets, via phone and by purchasing Dubai Cares branded merchandise. It is currently running a campaign called Bookings 2030, which allows people to help change the future of six underprivileged children and young people.

Emirates Airline Foundation

Those who travel on Emirates have undoubtedly seen the little donation envelopes in the seat pockets. But the foundation also accepts donations online and in the form of Skywards Miles. Donated miles are used to sponsor travel for doctors, surgeons, engineers and other professionals volunteering on humanitarian missions around the world.

Emirates Red Crescent

On the Emirates Red Crescent website you can choose between 35 different purposes for your donation, such as providing food for fasters, supporting debtors and contributing to a refugee women fund. It also has a list of bank accounts for each donation type.

Gulf for Good

Gulf for Good raises funds for partner charity projects through challenges, like climbing Kilimanjaro and cycling through Thailand. This year’s projects are in partnership with Street Child Nepal, Larchfield Kids, the Foundation for African Empowerment and SOS Children's Villages. Since 2001, the organisation has raised more than $3.5 million (Dh12.8m) in support of over 50 children’s charities.

Noor Dubai Foundation

Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum launched the Noor Dubai Foundation a decade ago with the aim of eliminating all forms of preventable blindness globally. You can donate Dh50 to support mobile eye camps by texting the word “Noor” to 4565 (Etisalat) or 4849 (du).

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Cultural fiesta

What: The Al Burda Festival
When: November 14 (from 10am)
Where: Warehouse421,  Abu Dhabi
The Al Burda Festival is a celebration of Islamic art and culture, featuring talks, performances and exhibitions. Organised by the Ministry of Culture and Knowledge Development, this one-day event opens with a session on the future of Islamic art. With this in mind, it is followed by a number of workshops and “masterclass” sessions in everything from calligraphy and typography to geometry and the origins of Islamic design. There will also be discussions on subjects including ‘Who is the Audience for Islamic Art?’ and ‘New Markets for Islamic Design.’ A live performance from Kuwaiti guitarist Yousif Yaseen should be one of the highlights of the day. 

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Red flags
  • Promises of high, fixed or 'guaranteed' returns.
  • Unregulated structured products or complex investments often used to bypass traditional safeguards.
  • Lack of clear information, vague language, no access to audited financials.
  • Overseas companies targeting investors in other jurisdictions - this can make legal recovery difficult.
  • Hard-selling tactics - creating urgency, offering 'exclusive' deals.

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Updated: June 14, 2022, 7:58 AM