• The Pal family in happier times in Ukraine before the Russian invasion in February. All photos: Pal family
    The Pal family in happier times in Ukraine before the Russian invasion in February. All photos: Pal family
  • Nitesh Pal with Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy before he took office in 2019.
    Nitesh Pal with Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy before he took office in 2019.
  • A view of an explosion close to the Pal's home in a village near Kiev.
    A view of an explosion close to the Pal's home in a village near Kiev.
  • The family spends the night on the bathroom floor as shelling continues.
    The family spends the night on the bathroom floor as shelling continues.
  • Children and adults camp out in the car on their way to safety on Ukraine's western border with Romania.
    Children and adults camp out in the car on their way to safety on Ukraine's western border with Romania.
  • Mr Pal says people are rebuilding their homes in Ukraine despite knowing the next attack could destroy them again.
    Mr Pal says people are rebuilding their homes in Ukraine despite knowing the next attack could destroy them again.
  • Shockwaves from a bomb that landed on a neighbour's land blew out the windows of the Pal family residence.
    Shockwaves from a bomb that landed on a neighbour's land blew out the windows of the Pal family residence.
  • The family had a lucky escape, leaving their home a day before it was damaged when a bomb hit a neighbour's yard.
    The family had a lucky escape, leaving their home a day before it was damaged when a bomb hit a neighbour's yard.
  • Windows and doors blew out in the family home after a nearby explosion.
    Windows and doors blew out in the family home after a nearby explosion.
  • Mr Pal races and owns a Ukrainian BMW team.
    Mr Pal races and owns a Ukrainian BMW team.
  • Mr Pal races with an owns the first official BMW racing team in Ukraine.
    Mr Pal races with an owns the first official BMW racing team in Ukraine.

'I refuse to leave': Indian Ukrainian stands with adopted country in fight against Russia


Ramola Talwar Badam
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When Nitesh Pal, a Ukrainian businessman of Indian origin, sent his family and colleagues across the country's western border to safety, he assured them he would soon follow.

His wife, Veronika, knew there was some business to settle with his company, which produces seafood.

What she didn't know was that her husband would return to stand alongside thousands of Ukrainians to support their country in the war against Russia.

“I refuse to leave,” said managing director and co-owner of Polar Seafood Ukraine, a subsidiary of a popular Danish brand.

“If everybody packed their bags and left on February 24, there would be no country.”

Every single person is protecting his own for when his family returns
Nitesh Pal,
Indian-Ukrainian businessman

Though his Ukrainian citizenship is relatively new, Mr Pal is a staunch defender of his new country. He was among the first batch of people granted citizenship when President Volodymyr Zelenskyy took office in 2019.

“I chose to be Ukrainian because I love this country. The people have amazing spirit — that’s why they are still fighting and why Russia can’t break the country.”

Men aged between 18 and 60 have been barred from leaving Ukraine, with exemptions for those supporting three or more children under the age of 18, as the country attempted to build up its defence forces.

As a father to three children aged between 6 and 14, Mr Pal was exempt and could have left. Two older children live in Denmark, where he worked before moving to Ukraine 10 years ago, and he could have travelled with his family to reunite with them in safety.

Instead, he stayed.

Supplying food

The 49-year-old is a key part of a civilian network that is helping to keep the country running during the conflict, supporting the army, caring for the wounded and making sure supermarket shelves are stocked.

While providing food for people need and armoured vests for soldiers, he is also running his business with a skeleton crew.

Nitesh Pal with Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy before he took office in 2019. Photo: Pal family
Nitesh Pal with Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelenskyy before he took office in 2019. Photo: Pal family

Several times a week, he gets behind the wheel to distribute canned fish, shrimp, mussels and herring fillets to retailers. Food runs must be completed before the night curfew kicks in at 11pm.

“The days are long and we use it well. At 4.30am, I’m packed and ready, leaving the gate at 5am sharp,” he said.

A large proportion of the seafood is given away free of charge.

“You need businesses to work, people need to eat. That is what I do. I’m not a soldier but you have to understand your use and get to work. That is how this country will win the war,” he said.

“Fish and canned seafood is in big demand because it’s cheap.

“We are privileged to have a business. We give away as much as we can and try to have a business at the same time.”

Driving lorries to restock stores across dangerous terrain, he said he has found many bodies along motorways. And atrocities such as those that took place in the city of Bucha have shaken him to his core.

“What I feel is anger; it stops the tears from coming out,” he told The National from his home in a small suburb on the outskirts of Kyiv.

“I haven’t yet cried but there will be a time when I will need to cry for a week.”

Lucky escape

  • Italian Prime Minister Mario Draghi, left, and French President Emmanuel Macron visit Irpin, outside Kyiv, and survey damage following Russia's invasion. AP
    Italian Prime Minister Mario Draghi, left, and French President Emmanuel Macron visit Irpin, outside Kyiv, and survey damage following Russia's invasion. AP
  • Ukrainian troops fire with a French self-propelled Caesar howitzer towards Russian positions at a front line in the eastern region of Donbas. AFP
    Ukrainian troops fire with a French self-propelled Caesar howitzer towards Russian positions at a front line in the eastern region of Donbas. AFP
  • Workers pour molten steel into a mould at a foundry in Berdyansk, Zaporizhzhia region, in an area under Russian military control. AP
    Workers pour molten steel into a mould at a foundry in Berdyansk, Zaporizhzhia region, in an area under Russian military control. AP
  • Russian soldiers guard an area next to a field of wheat in the Zaporizhzhia region. AP
    Russian soldiers guard an area next to a field of wheat in the Zaporizhzhia region. AP
  • A US Marine Corps Harrier fighter jet is parked on board the assault ship USS Kearsarge, during the Baltops 22 exercise in the Baltic Sea. Reuters
    A US Marine Corps Harrier fighter jet is parked on board the assault ship USS Kearsarge, during the Baltops 22 exercise in the Baltic Sea. Reuters
  • A man picks up debris after his house was destroyed by shelling in the city of Dobropillia, Donbas region. AFP
    A man picks up debris after his house was destroyed by shelling in the city of Dobropillia, Donbas region. AFP
  • Smoke rises after shelling in Ukraine's breakaway enclave of Donetsk. AFP
    Smoke rises after shelling in Ukraine's breakaway enclave of Donetsk. AFP
  • A mascot is wrapped in the colours of the Ukrainian flag before the country's Uefa Nations League football match against the Republic of Ireland in Lodz, Poland. Reuters
    A mascot is wrapped in the colours of the Ukrainian flag before the country's Uefa Nations League football match against the Republic of Ireland in Lodz, Poland. Reuters
  • Russian soldiers walk near a monument at the entrance of Mariupol, which has been painted in the colours of the Russian flag. AFP
    Russian soldiers walk near a monument at the entrance of Mariupol, which has been painted in the colours of the Russian flag. AFP
  • French troops at an air base in Constanta, Romania. French President Emmanuel Macron is expected to visit the base in a show of support for Nato and European allies following Russia's invasion of Ukraine. AP
    French troops at an air base in Constanta, Romania. French President Emmanuel Macron is expected to visit the base in a show of support for Nato and European allies following Russia's invasion of Ukraine. AP
  • Svitlana Nazarenko, sister of Mykhailo Tereshchenko, is comforted by her son during her brother's funeral in Kyiv. The Ukrainian soldier was killed in the Donbas region. Getty
    Svitlana Nazarenko, sister of Mykhailo Tereshchenko, is comforted by her son during her brother's funeral in Kyiv. The Ukrainian soldier was killed in the Donbas region. Getty
  • Russian troops demine the bay and beach of Mariupol, Ukraine. AFP
    Russian troops demine the bay and beach of Mariupol, Ukraine. AFP
  • A Russian soldier inspects the Azovstal steel plant, in Mariupol, in territory which is under control of the self-proclaimed Donetsk People's Republic. AP
    A Russian soldier inspects the Azovstal steel plant, in Mariupol, in territory which is under control of the self-proclaimed Donetsk People's Republic. AP
  • A house heavily damaged by Russian shelling is seen through a broken window, in the town of Bakhmut, Donetsk region. AP
    A house heavily damaged by Russian shelling is seen through a broken window, in the town of Bakhmut, Donetsk region. AP
  • Maryna Golovnia sits in a van with her children as they leave their home in Bakhmut, amid fighting. Getty Images
    Maryna Golovnia sits in a van with her children as they leave their home in Bakhmut, amid fighting. Getty Images
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    Ballet dancer Mykyta Sukhorukov rehearses before the evening Gala Concert of the Ukrainian National Ballet, in Kosice, Slovakia. Getty Images
  • A Ukrainian soldier looks on from inside a tank at a position in the breakaway Donetsk enclave, as Russia's attack on Ukraine continues. Reuters
    A Ukrainian soldier looks on from inside a tank at a position in the breakaway Donetsk enclave, as Russia's attack on Ukraine continues. Reuters
  • Boys play on top of a damaged Russian tank in Kyiv. EPA
    Boys play on top of a damaged Russian tank in Kyiv. EPA
  • An Orthodox priest blesses Ukrainian soldiers during a service at a church in the Eastern Ukrainian city of Kharkiv. EPA
    An Orthodox priest blesses Ukrainian soldiers during a service at a church in the Eastern Ukrainian city of Kharkiv. EPA
  • A damaged Ukrainian navy ship, the 'Donbas', lies partially submerged near the pier in the port city of Mariupol. EPA
    A damaged Ukrainian navy ship, the 'Donbas', lies partially submerged near the pier in the port city of Mariupol. EPA
  • Ukrainian soldiers load a projectile into a tank near the small city of Svitlodarsk, in the breakaway Ukrainian enclave of Donetsk. EPA
    Ukrainian soldiers load a projectile into a tank near the small city of Svitlodarsk, in the breakaway Ukrainian enclave of Donetsk. EPA
  • Smoke rises after the Russian military struck a compound at the Azot Chemical Plant in Lysychansk, Ukraine. Reuters
    Smoke rises after the Russian military struck a compound at the Azot Chemical Plant in Lysychansk, Ukraine. Reuters
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    A Russian serviceman on patrol outside the Ukrainian town of Schastia. AFP
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    Mourners gather during the funeral of Ukrainian serviceman Ruslan Skalskyi in Lviv. AFP
  • Civilians are evacuated from Lysychansk, in the eastern Donbas region of Ukraine. AFP
    Civilians are evacuated from Lysychansk, in the eastern Donbas region of Ukraine. AFP
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    A man passes two destroyed military lorries in Lysychansk. AFP
  • Ukrainian soldiers run for cover during clashes with Russian troops in Lysychansk. AFP
    Ukrainian soldiers run for cover during clashes with Russian troops in Lysychansk. AFP
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    An elderly woman reacts as Ukrainian soldiers lead her to safety during a battle with Russian troops in Lysychansk. AFP
  • A wounded woman is assisted by Ukrainian soldiers in Lysychansk. AFP
    A wounded woman is assisted by Ukrainian soldiers in Lysychansk. AFP
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    A house burns after being shelled in Lysychansk. AFP
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    A Ukrainian serviceman speaks on a radio at a front line in the Donbas region. AFP
  • A man walks next to a damaged building in Lysychansk. Reuters
    A man walks next to a damaged building in Lysychansk. Reuters
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    A man with children rides a bicycle along an empty street, as smoke rises after Russian shelling in Lysychansk. Reuters
  • An unexploded shell is stuck in the ground in Lysychansk. euters
    An unexploded shell is stuck in the ground in Lysychansk. euters
  • An elderly woman, who was evacuated from the Lysychansk area, cries moments before travelling by train to western Ukraine from Pokrovsk railway station. AP
    An elderly woman, who was evacuated from the Lysychansk area, cries moments before travelling by train to western Ukraine from Pokrovsk railway station. AP

The Pals live in a small village five kilometres from the capital, which came under attack soon after the war began in February.

The family slept on mattresses in the bathroom and in a passage between the house and the garage as bombs fell near their home.

The children’s hands trembled with every blast of anti-tank missiles as Russian bombs dropped on nearby warehouses and a petrol station.

They soon lost power and gas, with temperatures dropping below 5°C at night.

His older son, Alex, would follow him at night as he walked around checking the property.

“I went out not knowing what I could [do to protect us] if the Russians came. Nothing can save you, no guns, nothing. I would walk so that if someone shot at us, I would get shot and not him,” Mr Pal said.

He finally managed to convince his family and his staff to leave their homes near Kyiv for safer counties.

On the eighth day of the war, a group of 25 people — ranging in age from a three-month-old baby to a 78-year-old grandmother — packed into five cars carrying signs that read “children”, in hopes it would deter Russian forces from firing on them.

After a nerve-racking journey, the group stayed for two weeks in a town about 200km from Ukraine's western border with Romania.

He then helped staff and their families reach Poland, Spain, Romania and Canada.

The Pal family had a lucky escape, he said. The day after they left, a bomb landed in their neighbour’s yard. The explosion shattered windows and blew open the doors of the Pal home.

“If we were sitting in the kitchen that day, it would have been hell,” he said.

“Maybe nothing would have happened to us. But the kids would be forever traumatised by the sound alone.

“My target was to get people out.”

Grateful to be safe

Bombs wreck warehouses and a petrol station near the Pal's residence. Photo: Pal family
Bombs wreck warehouses and a petrol station near the Pal's residence. Photo: Pal family

Veronika, Mr Pal's Ukrainian wife, is with their children in Turkey, where the family has rented a house.

Small sounds such as windows rattling in the wind no longer frighten the children, who are now able to sleep through the night.

“At home, the earth was shivering with the blasts. We were really not sure if we would make it alive,” she said.

“You see in the news so many cars shot, so many dead families. You can’t plan your route because roads are blown up and there is shooting all the time.

“I was 90 per cent ready for death.”

Grateful they are safe, the family feel stuck in a surreal world.

“I understand why [Nitesh] is in Ukraine so I try not to press him to come be with us,” she said.

“I just want to go home, hug my husband, have my family life back. There are still feelings of total panic inside me.”

The family constantly check in on Mr Pal. His eldest daughter, Anna, 23, works in Denmark and calls daily.

“I messaged my family every 30 minutes when the war started,” she said.

“It’s difficult to have your parent in a war zone so I call him every single day.”

Ukrainians are survivors

War upended his life once before, in 1990, during Saddam Hussein’s invasion of Kuwait.

As a child, Mr Pal lived in the Gulf country and was on holiday in India when the Iraqi army invaded.

The family never returned. Mr Pal recalls having a suitcase in his room filled with photographs of his friends.

“We had nothing, literally nothing. I never saw my room, my house again.”

He lived in India for about two years before moving to work in Russia, then on to Denmark and finally to Ukraine.

Passionate about motorbikes, Mr Pal is the owner of the official BMW Ukrainian race team.

His glimmer of hope is tied to his nine bikes and three cars parked at a nearby track, where he tries to race daily.

“All my bikes and cars are ready to race,” he said.

“This is what I live for, this is what I love.”

He believes the indomitable spirit of his fellow Ukrainians will see them through.

“People are fixing their houses knowing tomorrow maybe [the shelling] will happen again,” Mr Pal said.

“That’s why this country is winning. It’s because every single person is protecting his own for when his family returns.

“Ukrainians have that drive to live a better life. They are fighters, survivors.”

Updated: June 13, 2022, 7:33 AM