Meeting like-minded people, be that via a book club or hiking group, is one way to connect with others in a new place. Getty Images
Meeting like-minded people, be that via a book club or hiking group, is one way to connect with others in a new place. Getty Images
Meeting like-minded people, be that via a book club or hiking group, is one way to connect with others in a new place. Getty Images
Meeting like-minded people, be that via a book club or hiking group, is one way to connect with others in a new place. Getty Images

A friend in need: How companionship can prevent depression


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Moving abroad can be an equally exciting and overwhelming proposition. For those starting out by themselves, challenges such as loneliness and the lack of a social life are particularly prevalent.

A recent study by the University of Cambridge identified social connection as the most important factor to ward off recurrent depressive disorder, cutting the risk by 18 per cent.

Tuesday marks World Mental Health Day and to coincide, The National speaks to social experts and residents about how happiness can take a hit during the expatriate life – and what to do to help.

“Many expatriates, especially those who have recently moved to the UAE, have left their closest relationships behind them,” says Devika Mankani, a holistic psychologist at Hundred Wellness Clinic and co-founder of Chearful.com.

“Unfortunately, loneliness and isolation are on the rise, so this is a much-needed reminder to consider those who are vulnerable among us, even if they don’t appear to be from a distance.”

The new arrival: ‘Dubai can be lonely’

For Jo Corbett, 32, moving to Dubai from New Zealand was an exciting yet challenging time. “It was difficult for me,” says Corbett, a life coach. “I was in a new country, I didn't have many friends and I was working long hours at the time while studying.

“I didn’t have a lot of time to get out and meet people. While I made the most of the time I did have, I was isolated for the most part. I certainly felt feelings of loneliness and my mental health took a hit.”

Loneliness is an internal experience and although someone might seem OK, this doesn't mean they are
Jo Corbett,
life coach

As well as actively trying to make new friends in Dubai, Corbett leaned on her friends and family back home, setting up regular Zoom calls with loved ones.

Today, Corbett channels her experiences into her work as a life coach, helping others who may be feeling lonely or disconnected. “It is definitely something I’ve seen with my clients in the UAE,” she says.

“It can be incredibly overwhelming and isolating when moving to a new city, especially without a good support system. I've especially seen many women struggle with this when they first arrive.”

Corbett says we all have a responsibility to support each other in a community like Dubai. “It's important to remember that loneliness is an internal experience and although someone might seem OK, this doesn't mean they are,” she says.

“We need to open space for conversations with friends and family to check in with them about how they feel and if they need support.”

The old-timer: ‘So many people move away’

'Having people around to take our mind off things is a great way to avoid introspective negativity,' says long-time Dubai resident Heather Broderick
'Having people around to take our mind off things is a great way to avoid introspective negativity,' says long-time Dubai resident Heather Broderick

For long-term Dubai resident Heather Broderick, 43, social disconnection is a direct result of expatriate life.

Since leaving her native Scotland 14 years ago, the workplace culture consultant has seen friends come and go, and says that maintaining friendships takes time and effort.

It is easy to get caught up in your own thoughts, and that can be dangerous for our emotional health
Heather Broderick,
workplace culture consultant

“During my time abroad, I have met some amazing, like-minded people and have created some lifelong friendships. But over time, most of them have moved home or moved on,” she says. “Now, without those strong friendships, it can be lonely at times.”

For Broderick, one of the main risks of social disconnection is overthinking and plunging into a negative spiral. “It is easy to get caught up in your own life and your own thoughts, and that can be dangerous for our emotional and mental health,” she says.

“Having people around to support us, raise our confidence, listen to us and take our mind off things, is a great way to avoid getting tangled up in introspective negativity.”

Now, Broderick makes a conscious effort to nurture friendships that she has let slide due to work and family commitments, and is encouraging others to do the same.

“People need people,” she says. “No matter how comfortable we are on our own, without coming into contact with others, sharing experiences with others and being a part of something collective, we are more likely to struggle with social isolation.”

The remote worker: ‘WFH isn’t always a good thing’

Those living or working abroad should keep up meaningful communication with family, friends and even colleagues on a regular basis. Getty Images
Those living or working abroad should keep up meaningful communication with family, friends and even colleagues on a regular basis. Getty Images

Australian Lucy Gow, 32, lived in the UAE for seven years before returning to life down under to support her husband’s career in 2019.

She continued to work in her role as group head of PR and communications at UAE hospitality group Solutions Leisure, but has found remote working to be difficult, despite the unwavering support of her employer.

“Over the space of three months last Christmas, my mental health deteriorated,” says Gow. “Working alone was taking its toll, as was watching others supersede me in their careers.

Even if it's one call or Zoom a day, make time for your team and clients
Lucy Gow,
PR executive

“I didn’t feel good enough, valued or seen, perhaps due to the time spent alone and making up scenarios, or the simple fact that the role I'd taken and the one that had developed were on opposite ends of the spectrum.

“My sense of worth was diminishing rapidly as a result of no social interaction; of missing all the celebrations, the team events and the cultural activities that were of such importance."

After finding a circle of like-minded professional women, Gow began to lower her expectations and credits her new social circle for changing her life.

“What I would say to people is, if you are isolated or remote, get out of the house,” she says. “Additionally, make time for your team and clients. Even if it's one call or Zoom a day, just speak to them. It expands your brain and changes your mindset.

“Finally, speak up. If you're in a bad place or you feel like you're going under, tell someone.”

The expert: ‘Find your people’

Clinical therapist and life coach Anne Jackson has seen a pattern emerge from those moving to the UAE. “When we move here, be it with our spouses and children, or alone, we are often leaving our community behind us,” says Jackson, founder of One Life Coaching.

“If we have those strong social connections back home, we will probably feel empowered to start this new life abroad; however, the strength often lies in those connections left behind.

“I’ve had many clients experience depression and isolation and not realise it’s because they left their social connection at home and haven’t built one here.”

Despite this, Jackson encourages new arrivals to be selective with their friendships. “Choose friends and acquaintances that share your values, your aspirations, your ideas and your dreams,” she says.

“Meeting people whilst doing an activity is also far easier, and if you don’t connect with anyone the first time, you at least are doing something you enjoy.

“Finally, always be yourself. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to be accepted – if they don’t like you how you are, they are not your people.”

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  • September 21 Anyone interested in becoming a certified yoga instructor can sign up for a 250-hour course in Yoga Teacher Training with Jacquelene Sadek. It begins on September 21 and will take place over the course of six weekends.
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  • October 26 to November 4 International pilates instructor Courtney Miller will be on hand at the studio, offering classes.
  • November 9 Bodytree is hosting a party to celebrate turning 10, and everyone is invited. Expect a day full of free classes on the grounds of the studio.
  • December 11 Yogeswari, an advanced certified Jivamukti teacher, will be visiting the studio.
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Where to donate in the UAE

The Emirates Charity Portal

You can donate to several registered charities through a “donation catalogue”. The use of the donation is quite specific, such as buying a fan for a poor family in Niger for Dh130.

The General Authority of Islamic Affairs & Endowments

The site has an e-donation service accepting debit card, credit card or e-Dirham, an electronic payment tool developed by the Ministry of Finance and First Abu Dhabi Bank.

Al Noor Special Needs Centre

You can donate online or order Smiles n’ Stuff products handcrafted by Al Noor students. The centre publishes a wish list of extras needed, starting at Dh500.

Beit Al Khair Society

Beit Al Khair Society has the motto “From – and to – the UAE,” with donations going towards the neediest in the country. Its website has a list of physical donation sites, but people can also contribute money by SMS, bank transfer and through the hotline 800-22554.

Dar Al Ber Society

Dar Al Ber Society, which has charity projects in 39 countries, accept cash payments, money transfers or SMS donations. Its donation hotline is 800-79.

Dubai Cares

Dubai Cares provides several options for individuals and companies to donate, including online, through banks, at retail outlets, via phone and by purchasing Dubai Cares branded merchandise. It is currently running a campaign called Bookings 2030, which allows people to help change the future of six underprivileged children and young people.

Emirates Airline Foundation

Those who travel on Emirates have undoubtedly seen the little donation envelopes in the seat pockets. But the foundation also accepts donations online and in the form of Skywards Miles. Donated miles are used to sponsor travel for doctors, surgeons, engineers and other professionals volunteering on humanitarian missions around the world.

Emirates Red Crescent

On the Emirates Red Crescent website you can choose between 35 different purposes for your donation, such as providing food for fasters, supporting debtors and contributing to a refugee women fund. It also has a list of bank accounts for each donation type.

Gulf for Good

Gulf for Good raises funds for partner charity projects through challenges, like climbing Kilimanjaro and cycling through Thailand. This year’s projects are in partnership with Street Child Nepal, Larchfield Kids, the Foundation for African Empowerment and SOS Children's Villages. Since 2001, the organisation has raised more than $3.5 million (Dh12.8m) in support of over 50 children’s charities.

Noor Dubai Foundation

Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid Al Maktoum launched the Noor Dubai Foundation a decade ago with the aim of eliminating all forms of preventable blindness globally. You can donate Dh50 to support mobile eye camps by texting the word “Noor” to 4565 (Etisalat) or 4849 (du).

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