While walking amid the narrow streets of Granada in Spain, being overwhelmed by the charm and beauty of the 13th-century neighbourhood, I stopped for a short break next to a 60-year-old fountain. During this time, the tour guide told us about the scholars and knowledgeable people seeking complete solitude next to the hill against the backdrop of the magnificent Alhambra Palace. “They usually build their tent in one of the hills and find inspiration for their writing or thinking. They believe that being aloof from the distraction of daily life will help them form their pursuit,” our guide said.
Solitude has long been a remedy to mental disorientation. The Prophet Mohammed often took refuge in a cave called Hira, near Mecca. He spent many nights thinking about his purpose of existence. During this time, he received the first revelation from the angel Gabriel.
What about people who are still trying to figure out the purpose of their life? Most people I know lack solitude, and I even wonder if they know what it means to spend time alone.
In the book The Forty Rules of Love by Elif Shafak, the author examines the importance of taking time out from your hectic schedule to contemplate. The main protagonist – Rumi, a famous preacher and a poet – always felt an emptiness deep in his heart. There are hidden pains locked in our chest, and you can't find a solution to problems unless you unlock that chain. Rumi says about solitude: "A little while alone in your room will prove more valuable than anything else that could ever be given you."
In our society, tension arises when a person goes on a retreat. My family often worry when I say that I enjoy spending time by myself. The first questions I get in such a scenario are: “Is everything all right? Is anything bothering you that you want to share?”
I’m fond of solitude, and I often treat myself to a coffee and take the time to tune out the world. I have noticed that purposeful solitude has recharged my energy, concentration and ability to think properly.
Humans are social creatures, and they have a tendency to seek the companionship of others to improve their well-being. People fear alienation; most people will even try to stay connected virtually, so that they don’t miss any news or notable events. Sometimes, when I meet co-workers and old friends, too often they sound like they have become a hollow shell in which “distraction” has occupied their life and they have less time for self-reflection. Now, more than ever, retreat is needed, away from loved ones, gadgets and work.
When was the last time you had breakfast, lunch or dinner by yourself? When was the last time you sat alone and took the time to hear your opinions, worries, and plans?
Asmaa Al Hameli is a features writer for The National.
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