The effects of child abuse are profound and enduring. The damage can be worse when the abuser is a parent, psychologists say.
Children develop their ideas about trust, faith and love through their mother and father, said Suzanne McLean, a child psychologist in Dubai.
"Once that is destroyed, and over many years, I think it's incredibly difficult to build that again," Ms McLean said.
It is not unusual for abused children to lie for their parents, as Augustine did, said Naeema Jiwani, a child development psychologist in Dubai.
"Divulging the family secret would really tarnish the reputation of the parents," Ms Jiwani said. "As well as, what choice did she have? These were the only protectors who would provide her with shelter, food and education to a certain extent."
Childhood trauma can have physical effects that last into adulthood, including impaired brain development. About 80 per cent of abused children meet the criteria for at least one psychiatric disorder by age 21, Ms Jiwani said.
People abused as children are also more likely to end up in abusive relationships as adults.
"The way in which you are parented becomes your blueprint which you carry with you for the rest of your life," Ms Jiwani said. "Then they're looking for people, at a very unconscious level, that in some way or another emulate their parents, because that's their sense of security."
Yet some people are able to recover.
"It's what we like to call resilience," Ms Jiwani said. "It's this protective factor of hope in the face of misery."
Finding a support system - someone to listen - is key for many survivors.
"Just opening up to people can build that resilience," Ms Jiwani said. "Another body will contain and process these experiences, make sense of this history and feed it back to them in a way that protects them."
It is not unusual for parents to deny abuse, as Augustine's do.
"It is one of the top things people will do when they're facing something they don't want to face: they deny it," Ms McLean said. "It's not that they really don't recollect the incidents. Of course they do. Denial is a way of protecting themselves."
As well as being unwilling now to admit the abuse, Augustine's parents often told their young daughters they were lucky to live in the UAE.
"They think they did us a huge favour by not leaving us in India," Augustine says. "A lot of families had children back in India."
"One of the biggest aspects to consider is these parents don't know any better," said Ms Jiwani. "To them, that is the way of parenting. That's their definition."
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What went into the film
25 visual effects (VFX) studios
2,150 VFX shots in a film with 2,500 shots
1,000 VFX artists
3,000 technicians
10 Concept artists, 25 3D designers
New sound technology, named 4D SRL
COMPANY PROFILE
Name: SmartCrowd
Started: 2018
Founder: Siddiq Farid and Musfique Ahmed
Based: Dubai
Sector: FinTech / PropTech
Initial investment: $650,000
Current number of staff: 35
Investment stage: Series A
Investors: Various institutional investors and notable angel investors (500 MENA, Shurooq, Mada, Seedstar, Tricap)
SPECS
Engine: 4-litre V8 twin-turbo
Power: 630hp
Torque: 850Nm
Transmission: 8-speed Tiptronic automatic
Price: From Dh599,000
On sale: Now
The Boy and the Heron
Director: Hayao Miyazaki
Starring: Soma Santoki, Masaki Suda, Ko Shibasaki
Rating: 5/5
The Pope's itinerary
Sunday, February 3, 2019 - Rome to Abu Dhabi
1pm: departure by plane from Rome / Fiumicino to Abu Dhabi
10pm: arrival at Abu Dhabi Presidential Airport
Monday, February 4
12pm: welcome ceremony at the main entrance of the Presidential Palace
12.20pm: visit Abu Dhabi Crown Prince at Presidential Palace
5pm: private meeting with Muslim Council of Elders at Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque
6.10pm: Inter-religious in the Founder's Memorial
Tuesday, February 5 - Abu Dhabi to Rome
9.15am: private visit to undisclosed cathedral
10.30am: public mass at Zayed Sports City – with a homily by Pope Francis
12.40pm: farewell at Abu Dhabi Presidential Airport
1pm: departure by plane to Rome
5pm: arrival at the Rome / Ciampino International Airport
THE DRAFT
The final phase of player recruitment for the T10 League has taken place, with UAE and Indian players being drafted to each of the eight teams.
Bengal Tigers
UAE players: Chirag Suri, Mohammed Usman
Indian: Zaheer Khan
Karachians
UAE players: Ahmed Raza, Ghulam Shabber
Indian: Pravin Tambe
Kerala Kings
UAE players: Mohammed Naveed, Abdul Shakoor
Indian: RS Sodhi
Maratha Arabians
UAE players: Zahoor Khan, Amir Hayat
Indian: S Badrinath
Northern Warriors
UAE players: Imran Haider, Rahul Bhatia
Indian: Amitoze Singh
Pakhtoons
UAE players: Hafiz Kaleem, Sheer Walli
Indian: RP Singh
Punjabi Legends
UAE players: Shaiman Anwar, Sandy Singh
Indian: Praveen Kumar
Rajputs
UAE players: Rohan Mustafa, Ashfaq Ahmed
Indian: Munaf Patel
Confirmed bouts (more to be added)
Cory Sandhagen v Umar Nurmagomedov
Nick Diaz v Vicente Luque
Michael Chiesa v Tony Ferguson
Deiveson Figueiredo v Marlon Vera
Mackenzie Dern v Loopy Godinez
Tickets for the August 3 Fight Night, held in partnership with the Department of Culture and Tourism Abu Dhabi, went on sale earlier this month, through www.etihadarena.ae and www.ticketmaster.ae.
CREW
Director: Rajesh A Krishnan
Starring: Tabu, Kareena Kapoor Khan, Kriti Sanon
Rating: 3.5/5
Company Fact Box
Company name/date started: Abwaab Technologies / September 2019
Founders: Hamdi Tabbaa, co-founder and CEO. Hussein Alsarabi, co-founder and CTO
Based: Amman, Jordan
Sector: Education Technology
Size (employees/revenue): Total team size: 65. Full-time employees: 25. Revenue undisclosed
Stage: early-stage startup
Investors: Adam Tech Ventures, Endure Capital, Equitrust, the World Bank-backed Innovative Startups SMEs Fund, a London investment fund, a number of former and current executives from Uber and Netflix, among others.
SPEC SHEET
Processor: Apple M2, 8-core GPU, 10-core CPU, 16-core Neural Engine
Display: 13.3-inch Retina, 2560 x 1600, 227ppi, 500 nits, True Tone, wide colour
Memory: 8/16/24GB
Storage: 256/512GB / 1/2TB
I/O: Thunderbolt 3 (2), 3.5mm audio; Touch Bar with Touch ID
Connectivity: Wi-Fi 6, Bluetooth 5.0
Battery: 58.2Wh lithium-polymer, up to 20 hours
Camera: 720p FaceTime HD
Video: Support for HDR with Dolby Vision, HDR10, ProRes
Audio: Stereo speakers with HDR, wide stereo, Spatial Audio support, Dolby support
In the box: MacBook Pro, 67W power adapter, USB-C cable
Price: From Dh5,499
MATCH INFO
Uefa Champions League, Group B
Barcelona v Inter Milan
Camp Nou, Barcelona
Wednesday, 11pm (UAE)
Tips for taking the metro
- set out well ahead of time
- make sure you have at least Dh15 on you Nol card, as there could be big queues for top-up machines
- enter the right cabin. The train may be too busy to move between carriages once you're on
- don't carry too much luggage and tuck it under a seat to make room for fellow passengers
Remaining Fixtures
Wednesday: West Indies v Scotland
Thursday: UAE v Zimbabwe
Friday: Afghanistan v Ireland
Sunday: Final