SHARJAH // Support staff at the Women’s Protection Centre walk a fine line every day in trying to help distressed wives, mothers and daughters.

They must listen to every party involved in the dispute – and some of the details can be depressing – and work out the best way to approach each case while remaining compassionate, yet with the detachment required of mediators.

“Small details become big problems so I tell them, ‘you may think, what’s this? It’s so small’, but it’s not,” said social worker Fatima Al Sehhi, who counsels residents at the centre.

“I tell them, ‘you must take responsibility for everything – the baby, husband, family, home, because a woman takes care of every person in the family. So you must be intelligent and strong, even if it’s difficult’.”

Staff, with the help of a psychologist and lawyer, identify the main issues and work out how best to mediate. Pointing the finger of blame usually takes up the first few sessions when social workers speak separately to the woman, her husband or the family.

“He says, ‘she doesn’t take care of the baby, doesn’t take care of the house,’ and she says ‘he doesn’t give any money’,” Ms Al Sehhi says. “I tell them they are here to solve things.”

She offers separate advice to the women.

“I tell her don’t leave the maid to feed the children, to take care of everything. Some men take this point and make it a problem, so change this.”

The women seek refuge after being subjected to violent attacks or when their husband refuses to financially support their daughter or wife.

“Some men are careless and some drink and so are careless about the family. They will not give money and go out with friends,” says Ms Al Sehhi.

“The problem is the man does not grow with his son, with his children. I tell them to treat their wife like their daughter, talk well and don’t shout or beat.

“I say, ‘give money for the house or how will your wife take care of your house, your baby? She is a working woman and goes out thinking all the time of the baby and house so why don’t you change this worry?’ ”

Some mediation sessions can be volatile. “Face-to-face intervention can go very loud,” said Mariam Al Hammadi, the centre’s manager. “We try to find out the problem because when each one blames the other it is difficult. Then we put a plan, decide goals and objectives.”

Reintegration with families is a gradual process that involves regular monitoring.

“First they go back for two hours, then for a whole day, then maybe they will stay one night,” Ms Al Hammadi said. “We don’t put them back directly. When they leave here, it’s not that we cut relations.”

When a woman does leave, staff visit every three days, then monthly, then twice a year. Police cooperation with the centre helps to convince the family that the abuse or neglect must stop.

Finding solutions is crucial, said Ms Al Sehhi, who is relieved when women who have left call to say they have found happiness.

“When a woman says, ‘thank you. Now my husband takes care of me and is not fighting,’ I’m happy,” she said. “I’m a social worker. I must to listen not to one, but to all.”

Ms Al Hammadi said: “A woman will not tell you everything about her life. You have to stay with her and show her the way to release her sadness or anger.

“We have a psychologist who talks to them so they can change how they feel about themselves.”

Some require help with depression and have to be coaxed out of their rooms.

“We want them to relax, to release themselves, but there was one woman who always said, ‘I don’t want to go out, I just want to sleep and stay in the room’,” Ms Al Hammadi said.

“Now she asks to be taken to the salon, to the mall – she wants to see the community.”

Filipino nurse Sharon Vios checks the women for bruises and knows the stress that can be put on staff if they are not wary.

“If you are not a strong woman and don’t know how to handle these cases, you will be depressed yourself,” Ms Vios says. “We have good team working here and we are like a family.”

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match info

Union Berlin 0

Bayern Munich 1 (Lewandowski 40' pen, Pavard 80')

Man of the Match: Benjamin Pavard (Bayern Munich)

Director: Laxman Utekar

Cast: Vicky Kaushal, Akshaye Khanna, Diana Penty, Vineet Kumar Singh, Rashmika Mandanna

Rating: 1/5

Our legal consultants

Name: Hassan Mohsen Elhais

Position: legal consultant with Al Rowaad Advocates and Legal Consultants.

The specs: 2018 Chevrolet Trailblazer

Price, base / as tested Dh99,000 / Dh132,000

Engine 3.6L V6

Transmission: Six-speed automatic

Power 275hp @ 6,000rpm

Torque 350Nm @ 3,700rpm

Fuel economy combined 12.2L / 100km

How to protect yourself when air quality drops

Install an air filter in your home.

Close your windows and turn on the AC.

Shower or bath after being outside.

Wear a face mask.

Stay indoors when conditions are particularly poor.

If driving, turn your engine off when stationary.

Formula Middle East Calendar (Formula Regional and Formula 4)
Round 1: January 17-19, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
 
Round 2: January 22-23, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
 
Round 3: February 7-9, Dubai Autodrome – Dubai
 
Round 4: February 14-16, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
 
Round 5: February 25-27, Jeddah Corniche Circuit – Saudi Arabia
Cryopreservation: A timeline
  1. Keyhole surgery under general anaesthetic
  2. Ovarian tissue surgically removed
  3. Tissue processed in a high-tech facility
  4. Tissue re-implanted at a time of the patient’s choosing
  5. Full hormone production regained within 4-6 months
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The Sand Castle

Director: Matty Brown

Stars: Nadine Labaki, Ziad Bakri, Zain Al Rafeea, Riman Al Rafeea

Rating: 2.5/5

COMPANY PROFILE
Name: HyperSpace
 
Started: 2020
 
Founders: Alexander Heller, Rama Allen and Desi Gonzalez
 
Based: Dubai, UAE
 
Sector: Entertainment 
 
Number of staff: 210 
 
Investment raised: $75 million from investors including Galaxy Interactive, Riyadh Season, Sega Ventures and Apis Venture Partners
If you go
Where to stay: Courtyard by Marriott Titusville Kennedy Space Centre has unparalleled views of the Indian River. Alligators can be spotted from hotel room balconies, as can several rocket launch sites. The hotel also boasts cool space-themed decor.

When to go: Florida is best experienced during the winter months, from November to May, before the humidity kicks in.

How to get there: Emirates currently flies from Dubai to Orlando five times a week.
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Engine: 77.4kW all-wheel-drive dual motor
Power: 320bhp
Torque: 605Nm
Transmission: Single-speed automatic
Price: From Dh219,000
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The specs: McLaren 600LT

Price, base: Dh914,000

Engine: 3.8-litre twin-turbo V8

Transmission: Seven-speed automatic

Power: 600hp @ 7,500rpm

Torque: 620Nm @ 5,500rpm

Fuel economy 12.2.L / 100km

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Three ways to get a gratitude glow

By committing to at least one of these daily, you can bring more gratitude into your life, says Ong.

  • During your morning skincare routine, name five things you are thankful for about yourself.
  • As you finish your skincare routine, look yourself in the eye and speak an affirmation, such as: “I am grateful for every part of me, including my ability to take care of my skin.”
  • In the evening, take some deep breaths, notice how your skin feels, and listen for what your skin is grateful for.
Vidaamuyarchi

Director: Magizh Thirumeni

Stars: Ajith Kumar, Arjun Sarja, Trisha Krishnan, Regina Cassandra

Rating: 4/5

 

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PROFILE OF STARZPLAY

Date started: 2014

Founders: Maaz Sheikh, Danny Bates

Based: Dubai, UAE

Sector: Entertainment/Streaming Video On Demand

Number of employees: 125

Investors/Investment amount: $125 million. Major investors include Starz/Lionsgate, State Street, SEQ and Delta Partners

'Worse than a prison sentence'

Marie Byrne, a counsellor who volunteers at the UAE government's mental health crisis helpline, said the ordeal the crew had been through would take time to overcome.

“It was worse than a prison sentence, where at least someone can deal with a set amount of time incarcerated," she said.

“They were living in perpetual mystery as to how their futures would pan out, and what that would be.

“Because of coronavirus, the world is very different now to the one they left, that will also have an impact.

“It will not fully register until they are on dry land. Some have not seen their young children grow up while others will have to rebuild relationships.

“It will be a challenge mentally, and to find other work to support their families as they have been out of circulation for so long. Hopefully they will get the care they need when they get home.”

The specs: 2018 Maxus T60

Price, base / as tested: Dh48,000

Engine: 2.4-litre four-cylinder

Power: 136hp @ 1,600rpm

Torque: 360Nm @ 1,600 rpm

Transmission: Five-speed manual

Fuel consumption, combined: 9.1L / 100km

Other key dates
  • Finals draw: December 2
  • Finals (including semi-finals and third-placed game): June 5–9, 2019
  • Euro 2020 play-off draw: November 22, 2019
  • Euro 2020 play-offs: March 26–31, 2020
if you go

The flights
Emirates flies to Delhi with fares starting from around Dh760 return, while Etihad fares cost about Dh783 return. From Delhi, there are connecting flights to Lucknow. 
Where to stay
It is advisable to stay in Lucknow and make a day trip to Kannauj. A stay at the Lebua Lucknow hotel, a traditional Lucknowi mansion, is recommended. Prices start from Dh300 per night (excluding taxes). 

The specs

Price, base / as tested Dh12 million

Engine 8.0-litre quad-turbo, W16

Gearbox seven-speed dual clutch auto

Power 1479 @ 6,700rpm

Torque 1600Nm @ 2,000rpm 0-100kph: 2.6 seconds 0-200kph: 6.1 seconds

Top speed 420 kph (governed)

Fuel economy, combined 35.2L / 100km (est)

Sinopharm vaccine explained

The Sinopharm vaccine was created using techniques that have been around for decades. 

“This is an inactivated vaccine. Simply what it means is that the virus is taken, cultured and inactivated," said Dr Nawal Al Kaabi, chair of the UAE's National Covid-19 Clinical Management Committee.

"What is left is a skeleton of the virus so it looks like a virus, but it is not live."

This is then injected into the body.

"The body will recognise it and form antibodies but because it is inactive, we will need more than one dose. The body will not develop immunity with one dose," she said.

"You have to be exposed more than one time to what we call the antigen."

The vaccine should offer protection for at least months, but no one knows how long beyond that.

Dr Al Kaabi said early vaccine volunteers in China were given shots last spring and still have antibodies today.

“Since it is inactivated, it will not last forever," she said.

Paatal Lok season two

Directors: Avinash Arun, Prosit Roy 

Stars: Jaideep Ahlawat, Ishwak Singh, Lc Sekhose, Merenla Imsong

Rating: 4.5/5

MATCH INFO

Burnley 0

Man City 3

Raheem Sterling 35', 49'

Ferran Torres 65'

 

 

MATCH INFO

Everton v Tottenham, Sunday, 8.30pm (UAE)

Match is live on BeIN Sports

Emergency

Director: Kangana Ranaut

Stars: Kangana Ranaut, Anupam Kher, Shreyas Talpade, Milind Soman, Mahima Chaudhry 

Rating: 2/5