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There are so many different cultures in the UAE you can’t help but graduate from here with a deeper knowledge of the world Pawan Singh / The National 

The discriminating job advert got me thinking



Moving abroad is not just about changing your postal address, it's about your personal identity, too. I have grappled with mine a lot in the seven years that I have lived in Abu Dhabi.

Not a day goes by when I am not asked where I come from, what languages I speak, what religion I follow, and what’s the deal with my repetitive name.

They’re are all good-natured inquires, of course, and all part and parcel of being an international citizen in a diverse population. Living in the UAE is sort of like being a college student. People from all corners of the globe are here but only for a set period of time. I have found that, as fertile as the experience is, you can’t help but graduate with a deeper knowledge of the world and how you fit into it.

Like most things in life, though, when things are taken to the extreme, problems can arise. I have come to see that when it comes to identity, the line between curiosity and discrimination can sometimes become blurred.

Take this week’s online job advertisement posted by an Al Ain Nursery, which called for “fair-skinned” applicants only. People reacted and the management was forced to defend its position. It stated that the request was made in response to frequent inquiries by parents about the ethnic background of its team, so it thought to employ what was largely acceptable to the masses.

While I disagree with the wording of this particular job advertisement for obvious reasons, I can sympathise with the nursery. I guess deep down, it is becoming a slave to the community and its preferences. What I have found heartwarming, though, is the far-reaching conversation that has ensued and the strong government response to this case.

But it’s worth remembering that not all biased behaviour can be tackled by way of legislation. The burden must also be carried by us, and we should continually examine the way we address and view each other.

I have been reflecting on this myself and would be lying to you if I said race didn’t play a part in my interactions here every day.

I find that the English language is a relatively worthless currency when shopping at Madinat Zayed Shopping Centre, instead I find that when interacting with vendors and other consumers from the region, my fluency in Arabic helps me bag some real bargains, especially when it comes to top-notch kanduras. From a career point of view, I have also found that Arabic mixed with my Eritrean roots has been particularly helpful when it comes to interactions with elderly Arabs, allowing me great interviews in a safe and comfortable manner.

That being said, I have also seen and experienced what happens when people make assumptions. I do it and know I still have some work to do when it comes to tackling my own biases. You’d think I should have already learnt this by now, because I have also been on the receiving end when travelling across the Gulf and the wider Levant.

These experiences range from the relatively benign, such as being the occasional recipient of praise for “my good English”, to the more serious, like when I’m at passport control and asked where “my father comes from” (when I divulge my African heritage the mood often changes).

I have recently remedied this by opting to speak my very best English when travelling.

When it comes to the job market, I have seen how my friends from Sudan and Somalia have handled looking for jobs in the Gulf. They told me they never stated their ethnicity on their CVs and only answer the question when asked during an interview.

I believe that this way of thinking needs to be eradicated from the UAE and the Gulf in order to reap the benefits of its cosmopolitan population.

I am fortunate that my profession doesn’t focus so much on race – in reality, when it comes to journalism, our work speaks for itself and we’re compensated accordingly.

I’d say it’s this principle that needs to be the backbone for all UAE organisations and employees, and hopefully, we can all get to a stage where we can ask an organisation how competent their employees are as opposed to focusing on where they come from

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Match info

Australia 580
Pakistan 240 and 335

Result: Australia win by an innings and five runs

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Financial considerations before buying a property

Buyers should try to pay as much in cash as possible for a property, limiting the mortgage value to as little as they can afford. This means they not only pay less in interest but their monthly costs are also reduced. Ideally, the monthly mortgage payment should not exceed 20 per cent of the purchaser’s total household income, says Carol Glynn, founder of Conscious Finance Coaching.

“If it’s a rental property, plan for the property to have periods when it does not have a tenant. Ensure you have enough cash set aside to pay the mortgage and other costs during these periods, ideally at least six months,” she says. 

Also, shop around for the best mortgage interest rate. Understand the terms and conditions, especially what happens after any introductory periods, Ms Glynn adds.

Using a good mortgage broker is worth the investment to obtain the best rate available for a buyer’s needs and circumstances. A good mortgage broker will help the buyer understand the terms and conditions of the mortgage and make the purchasing process efficient and easier. 

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THE BIO

Born: Mukalla, Yemen, 1979

Education: UAE University, Al Ain

Family: Married with two daughters: Asayel, 7, and Sara, 6

Favourite piece of music: Horse Dance by Naseer Shamma

Favourite book: Science and geology

Favourite place to travel to: Washington DC

Best advice you’ve ever been given: If you have a dream, you have to believe it, then you will see it.

if you go

The flights Fly Dubai, Air Arabia, Emirates, Etihad, and Royal Jordanian all offer direct, three-and-a-half-hour flights from the UAE to the Jordanian capital Amman. Alternatively, from June Fly Dubai will offer a new direct service from Dubai to Aqaba in the south of the country. See the airlines’ respective sites for varying prices or search on reliable price-comparison site Skyscanner.

The trip 

Jamie Lafferty was a guest of the Jordan Tourist Board. For more information on adventure tourism in Jordan see Visit Jordan. A number of new and established tour companies offer the chance to go caving, rock-climbing, canyoning, and mountaineering in Jordan. Prices vary depending on how many activities you want to do and how many days you plan to stay in the country. Among the leaders are Terhaal, who offer a two-day canyoning trip from Dh845 per person. If you really want to push your limits, contact the Stronger Team. For a more trek-focused trip, KE Adventure offers an eight-day trip from Dh5,300 per person.

Top tips

Create and maintain a strong bond between yourself and your child, through sensitivity, responsiveness, touch, talk and play. “The bond you have with your kids is the blueprint for the relationships they will have later on in life,” says Dr Sarah Rasmi, a psychologist.
Set a good example. Practise what you preach, so if you want to raise kind children, they need to see you being kind and hear you explaining to them what kindness is. So, “narrate your behaviour”.
Praise the positive rather than focusing on the negative. Catch them when they’re being good and acknowledge it.
Show empathy towards your child’s needs as well as your own. Take care of yourself so that you can be calm, loving and respectful, rather than angry and frustrated.
Be open to communication, goal-setting and problem-solving, says Dr Thoraiya Kanafani. “It is important to recognise that there is a fine line between positive parenting and becoming parents who overanalyse their children and provide more emotional context than what is in the child’s emotional development to understand.”

US federal gun reform since Sandy Hook

- April 17, 2013: A bipartisan-drafted bill to expand background checks and ban assault weapons fails in the Senate.

- July 2015: Bill to require background checks for all gun sales is introduced in House of Representatives. It is not brought to a vote.

- June 12, 2016: Orlando shooting. Barack Obama calls on Congress to renew law prohibiting sale of assault-style weapons and high-capacity magazines.

- October 1, 2017: Las Vegas shooting. US lawmakers call for banning bump-fire stocks, and some renew call for assault weapons ban.

- February 14, 2018: Seventeen pupils are killed and 17 are wounded during a mass shooting in Parkland, Florida.

- December 18, 2018: Donald Trump announces a ban on bump-fire stocks.

- August 2019: US House passes law expanding background checks. It is not brought to a vote in the Senate.

- April 11, 2022: Joe Biden announces measures to crack down on hard-to-trace 'ghost guns'.

- May 24, 2022: Nineteen children and two teachers are killed at an elementary school in Uvalde, Texas.

- June 25, 2022: Joe Biden signs into law the first federal gun-control bill in decades.