<span>For something that happens annually, it is amazing how </span><span>no Ramadan is </span><span>ever the same. Despite the structural order it imposes on our daily lives, from the time we break our fast to attending the </span><span>nightly Taraweeh prayers, each Ramadan has its own flavours and experiences. </span> <span>It is something I have </span><span>learnt to appreciate as I gr</span><span>ow older. </span><span>Previously, I looked forward to the holy month </span><span>because of the</span><span> family atmosphere it engenders, </span><span>focusing more on the social and festive aspects</span><span>. But I now </span><span>view it </span><span>more as a much-needed spiritual detox from the hustle and bustle of the year, </span><span> provid</span><span>ing me with an opportunity to slow down and take stock of the past</span><span> 12 months.</span> <span>This means that not only </span><span>should I be careful of what I </span><span>consume physically, but emotionally as well. It means making a concerted effort to remove myself from</span><span> idle chatter or a situation that can escalate into argument. </span><span>This change of focus </span><span>was inspired three years ago by the imam of my former local mosque in Khalidiya</span><span>. </span><span>While speaking to members of congregation after the prayer, he drove home the importance of reaping the spiritual rewards the holy month can bring.</span> <span>But like most things in life, </span><span>these only come through hard work</span><span>. "Do you know what is a big tragedy?" I remember </span><span>my imam saying. "The person who leaves Ramadan the same way he entered it."</span> <span>He </span><span>explained </span><span>that we </span><span>needed to seek out the improvements we want to make during the holy month. We </span><span>were to ask ourselves the hard questions and define what aspects of our character needed to be fine-tun</span><span>ed, from </span><span>learning to be more patien</span><span>t with others and being more forgiving, to finally breaking bad habits, such as smoking.</span> <span>Ideally, this is best done as part of a collective. </span><span>With that in mind, this weekend is a good chance to create your Ramadan Squad, a group of people who will keep each other in line and remind you of your goals. </span><span>One piece of advice: if those people don't come to mind immediately, then they shouldn't be included in your group.</span> <span>I met </span><span>my group earlier this week for breakfast in Reem Island – something we never usually do, but it's amazing how we appreciate certain things more </span><span>when </span><span>they are about to be taken away from us. </span><span>Because I was the one who initiated the meeting, I said that, as well as </span><span>daily prayers, I plan to use the month to seek out relatives and friends I have yet to respond to, due to my aversion to difficult conversations.</span> <span>With Ramadan also being a </span><span>time of good cheer, </span><span>it is an apt opportunity to break the ice and seek </span><span>forgiveness </span><span>from </span><span>anyone who has been aggrieved by my actions. I </span><span>have already drawn up a list of people whom I plan to contact (and maintain ties with) during the holy month and beyond, and the squad expects a report on my efforts during our regular suhoor sessions.</span> <span>One of the other members, Ahmed, an Egyptian</span><span> who works in IT, sa</span><span>ys his goal is to make Ramadan memorable for his son, who is about to embark on his first full fast. "The boy needs to know that it is not a burden," he says. "I will take him with me to the prayers, the religious classes and the family events. I want him to know that </span><span>Ramadan is a special time and not something that he should dread."</span> <span>Abdullah, a Sudanese office clerk, says his goal is to focus his voracious reading appetite to the Qur</span><span>an and other spiritual texts. "My brother did it last year," he</span><span> explains. "With the Qur</span><span>an being about 600 pages long, that is about 20 pages a day. And if you split it among the five daily prayers, that's five pages after each prayer. Th</span><span>at is doable."</span> <span>He also pledge</span><span>s to </span><span>report on his progress during our Ramadan sessions.</span> <span>It is my sincere hope that the holy month allows you the opportunity to ask yourself the hard questions, and may you celebrate it well with your famil</span><span>ies and your own squads.</span> <span>Ramadan Mubarak.</span>