Members of the FNC, which is the appropriate body to consider the issue of domestic abuse. Photo:  Satish Kumar / The National
Members of the FNC, which is the appropriate body to consider the issue of domestic abuse. Photo: Satish Kumar / The National

Time to break the silence on family abuse in the UAE



The real value of the Federal National Council emerges at times when a law has to catch up with the changing values and priorities of Emirati society. By having a mix of elected and appointed representatives from across the country, the FNC reflects the breadth of Emirati life, which is why it is the perfect forum to begin discussions about proposed laws on domestic abuse.

Every society suffers from domestic abuse and the UAE is no different. However, increasing numbers of incidents are being reported because more people in this country are choosing to speak up against it. The laws governing domestic abuse need to be updated to reflect these evolving attitudes.

As The National reported yesterday, FNC members have called for a law that can deal with domestic abuse in all its forms, including physical, sexual and psychological abuse. Ghaneema Al Bahari, the director of care and rehabilitation at the Dubai Foundation for Women and Children, said such a law would give the foundation the teeth it needs to deal with abusive family members.

But this discussion will involve a delicate balancing act. Domestic abuse is a difficult subject because there is no consensus on what it can involve and what the limits should be on the sanctity of the family home. For example, when does it become more than just a family affair that warrants official intervention? What specific forms of abuse should be made punishable by law? Would neglect, for example, be considered an offence that calls for prosecution? Where should the line be drawn between family discipline and abuse?

There is a clear need to challenge some traditional ideas and practices within the home that no longer suit modern Emirati society. The victims of domestic abuse in the UAE are usually women, with 507 of the 840 cases of domestic abuse in Abu Dhabi in 2013 involving abuse from husbands. These cases involved not just physical attacks but also verbal insults and threats. Unfortunately, these are sometimes ignored in Emirati society or even tolerated as a legitimate form of discipline.

This balancing act will require wisdom and also keen awareness of Emirati values, but the reward will be to have ended confusion about what is and is not acceptable behaviour. From this, a legal framework will address all forms of domestic abuse, shedding light on a pressing issue that for too long has remained in the shadows.

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Common OCD symptoms and how they manifest

Checking: the obsession or thoughts focus on some harm coming from things not being as they should, which usually centre around the theme of safety. For example, the obsession is “the building will burn down”, therefore the compulsion is checking that the oven is switched off.

Contamination: the obsession is focused on the presence of germs, dirt or harmful bacteria and how this will impact the person and/or their loved ones. For example, the obsession is “the floor is dirty; me and my family will get sick and die”, the compulsion is repetitive cleaning.

Orderliness: the obsession is a fear of sitting with uncomfortable feelings, or to prevent harm coming to oneself or others. Objectively there appears to be no logical link between the obsession and compulsion. For example,” I won’t feel right if the jars aren’t lined up” or “harm will come to my family if I don’t line up all the jars”, so the compulsion is therefore lining up the jars.

Intrusive thoughts: the intrusive thought is usually highly distressing and repetitive. Common examples may include thoughts of perpetrating violence towards others, harming others, or questions over one’s character or deeds, usually in conflict with the person’s true values. An example would be: “I think I might hurt my family”, which in turn leads to the compulsion of avoiding social gatherings.

Hoarding: the intrusive thought is the overvaluing of objects or possessions, while the compulsion is stashing or hoarding these items and refusing to let them go. For example, “this newspaper may come in useful one day”, therefore, the compulsion is hoarding newspapers instead of discarding them the next day.

Source: Dr Robert Chandler, clinical psychologist at Lighthouse Arabia

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